This is the story of how I used the Law of Attraction to effortlessly create my ideal relationship with my girlfriend Laura. She is my best friend and a wonderful partner. The relationship we share is the best we’ve both ever had.
This story has some implications for you: no matter where you’re at in life, you can always turn things around. And it’s easier than you think to attract your ideal partner and create a loving relationship.
As you’ll discover in this story, I went from being a geeky guy to being a suave (and unhappy) player and then realizing the infinite love available to all of us and the innate ability we all have to create whatever we desire in life.
When I was a teenager I was shy and socially awkward. I was overweight and into nerdy things like Dungeons and Dragons. I grew up in a strict religious family where sex was a taboo topic.
Because of all these things I didn’t even try dating. Well I tried a little, but I was so shy and awkward that I gave up after a few failed efforts.
In my late teens I began to go to the gym and lost a lot of the excess weight. The improvements to my looks attracted the attention of a girl at my church. Despite her making obvious invitations for me to talk to her, I didn’t because I still had the belief that no one wanted to date me.
Eventually this woman’s dad decided to intervene and set us up on a date. It turned out that we had a lot in common and got along well. We kept dating and fell in love rather quickly. Because both our parents were religious and we were in love, I asked her to marry me.
After a brief marriage of two years, she asked me for a divorce. This was devastating to me. And I was rebounding. Because I didn’t have any other experience with women and dating I did what any other geeky guy would do – start reading books on the topic. This was also when I learned about the Law of Attraction.
Some of the books were lousy, but some were good. Like many things in life, success with dating is often counterintuitive – the opposite of what you think will work, often works. I had to unlearn a lot of bad behaviors and learn new ones.
And I had to become a better person – I had to grow and improve. This is paramount to success in any endeavor – becoming greater than your problems.
As I put what I learned into practice, I began to have success. I met some great women, and some of those women ended up being my girlfriend.
But none of them lasted. And I was not happy or fulfilled despite getting all the female attention I wanted. Sometimes when you get the thing that you think will make you happy, it doesn’t.
After several years of partying and picking up women, I became frustrated with life. I had been seeking happiness and fulfillment from the world – money, sex, etc. None of these things gave me the fulfillment and love I wanted.
And my life was a mess. Despite having a college degree in Chemistry, I had a hard time finding gainful employment. I was living with my parents. I had few friends and I didn’t have a good relationship with my family, either.
But I didn’t lose hope. I thought maybe I just hadn’t learned the right thing or done the right thing yet. I read a ton of self-help books over the years. In fact, self-help was pretty much all I read. I devoured books from people like Tony Robbins, Eckhart Tolle, Louise Hay, and many more books that talked about the law of attraction.. These works were helpful, but not life changing.
It wasn’t until I discovered letting go that everything changed.
One day I was searching for another self-help program that could maybe help me get out of this rut I was in. As I browsed the web I saw someone say on a forum that letting go was the key to making the law of attraction work.
When I read this, something spoke to me inside. I knew I had to give it a try. I got my hands on a recording of a retreat that was all about letting go and started listening. It was totally eye opening. The instructor talked about how “want equates to lack” and encouraged listeners to let go of wanting (among other things).
All of this made sense to me. I understood how wanting created the feeling of lack – and if you feel lack, then that’s what you create in life.
So I did. And it felt good. As I let go if felt like a great burden lifted from my shoulders. And it was energizing. I could hardly sleep the first night I started. But I kept listening to this retreat without taking many breaks.
A few days later I experienced something I will never forget. I went for a walk to burn off some of the excess energy I had. As I walked I felt the most intense happiness and bliss. I remember thinking to myself: “what is this?” “what is happening?”
As I looked around, I saw no separation between myself and anything else. I also noticed that I loved everything, unconditionally. At the same time, I felt Kundalini energy rising up my spine. The only way I can describe it is like an orgasm of the soul.
In that moment, I realized that what we are is unlimited and loves everything unconditionally. I realized that we are not separate from Source, or God (or whatever you want to call it) and that everything we are seeking – love, abundance, eternal life – we have already.
Shortly after that I manifested my dream job with a startup bio-fuels company. That was my first major win. As the years went by, I was able to use the law of attraction to create pretty much anything I set my mind to.
But I never gave much thought to relationships. I had good social skills and I was a good looking guy. I didn’t have a problem getting a girlfriend. I didn’t think to use my knowledge to create my ideal relationship. That is, until I had several bad breakups in a row.
After those breakups, I decided it was time to create my ideal relationship. I felt frustrated that I had loved and lost so many times. I never wanted to feel that pain again.
So I decided to use the techniques I learned to create my ideal relationship. I got clear on what my ideal partner and my ideal relationship looked like to me, and started letting go.
Laura and I in Colorado Springs
About a month after I did this process, my mom called me up, told me that her wellness coach was single and wanted to know if I was interested in going on a date with her. I said yes, and when we met up, we connected instantly.
Laura was deeply spiritual like I was – something I desired in a partner. We also held similar social and political beliefs. And we like the same things, enjoy doing the same things, etc. Sure we have our differences like any couple, but overall we are a great match and we disagreements between us are rare.
We’ve been together for well over a year now and I can say that this relationship is the most fulfilling I’ve ever had.
And the funny thing is I didn’t even have to do anything to meet her. I didn’t need to use any of the dating advice or “pick-up tricks”. And I didn’t have to go anywhere to meet her. My mom of all people introduced us!
This is an example of what’s possible when you get clear on what you want and let go. The law of attraction really works! Things like this happen frequently in my life. The right thing always seems to show up at the right time.
The letting go techniques I learned have had such a profound impact on my life, that I love sharing them with anyone who’s interested.
To help people like you create the relationship you desire, I’ve put together a free 5-part video coaching class that explains everything you need to know to attract your ideal partner. I call it “How to Manifest Love“.
It’s free to sign up, and the techniques I share are easy to learn and use in your daily life.
When trying to create your ideal relationship, there are two major barriers that prevent you from succeeding: feelings of fear and and feelings of lust. These two emotions create internal conflict and rob us of the energy that could otherwise be used to take the right actions.
In this post, you’re going to learn how these two emotions affect you, and also how you can release them so they no longer affect your thoughts, actions, and overall experience of life.
Let’s first talk about fear. Fear paralyzes us and prevents us from taking action towards our goal. This could manifest in many ways such as:
The most common fears around relationships is fear of getting hurt or taken advantage of. Other common fears include fear of abandonment, fear of rejection, and the fear that we are not good enough.
These fears are not real, they are just thoughts. Even if you have experienced something negative in the past, it’s still just a memory. It’s not what’s here and now. When you hold on to feelings of fear, you are focusing on something that you don’t want. You are at least making it real in your mind.
Do you really want to do that? Do you really want to keep experiencing something that you don’t want over and over again?
The good news is that you can easily let go of fear. And when you do this, you will stop suffering its negative effects.
Later on In this article, you’re going to discover a quick and easy exercise you can use to release feelings of fear anytime you want.
The second major barrier to having your ideal relationship is lust. When we think of lust, often the first thing that comes to mind is sex. But lust is more than that. It is a feeling of “I want that” or “I need that”. But there is some hold-back. Often with lust comes a feeling of “it’s not right for me” or “It’s not possible” or “I can’t”.
The problem with lust is that it is a feeling of lack and limitation. If you approach a relationship or potential partner from a place of lack or neediness, your chances of success are not very good.
Neediness is repulsive, not attractive.
The good news is that lust is just a feeling, it’s not you, and you can let it go. And when you let go of lust or wanting, you will notice more and more a feeling of completeness or wholeness.
And this is a much more attractive to other people. If you feel whole and complete within yourself, those around you will feel the same.
And they will naturally be attracted to you because of how you make them feel.
In the video below, I guide you through an exercise to release fear and lust. There’s really only two things you need to do in this exercise: welcoming and letting go. These two inner actions are usually the opposite of what we normally do.
What we normally do with uncomfortable feelings like fear and lust is try to cover them up, avoid them, or get rid of them. And this doesn’t work. This only serves to strengthen the power they have over you. If you welcome or allow them instead, they release all on their own.
Similarly, we also tend to hold on to these uncomfortable feelings. It may seem like these feelings are holding onto you, but in reality you are holding on to the feeling. If you decide instead to let it go, you will feel it release and you will be free from it.
Just follow along as best you can and do it just for now. You can always go back to your old habits later. You really can’t do this the wrong way.
Now take a few moments and notice how you feel after doing this exercise. Do you feel more empowered? Do you feel more free or more courageous or more whole and complete? Just take a few moments to check inside and see if you can feel a difference.
If you’re feeling a difference, great! You’re beginning to release feelings of fear and lust. If you’re not feeling anything, that’s OK too. Either way, continue using this process whenever you notice fear or lust arising in consciousness.
Fear and lust are just feelings. They are not you and you can let them go. The more you let go fo these feelings, the more you will feel empowered to create whatever you want in life.
Now you can get a free 1-on-1 coaching session with me to help you create your ideal relationship. You’ll discover my “secret” method that I used to effortlessly attract my girlfriend in 30 days.
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One of the biggest mistakes we make when going after our goals is doing so from a place of scarcity. Have you ever been on a date with someone and they acted so needy or desperate that you got turned off? Or have you ever talked with a salesperson and they seemed so pushy and eager for the sale that you didn’t want to buy, even though you might have otherwise?
The root cause of these types of self-defeating behavior are feelings of scarcity. When you are coming from a place of “I want more” or “I need more”, that’s scarcity. What you’re essentially saying is “I don’t have enough” or “I am not enough”. Most of us believe this in one way or another.
But this is just an assumption. And it’s not true. In my experience, you are already perfect, whole, and complete in this moment. But most of us don’t realize this. We assume the opposite – that we are not enough and that we don’t have enough. But in any given moment you can see through this illusion and realize the perfection and abundance of your true nature.
But just Imagine approaching your goals from a place of wholeness and completeness as opposed to a place of scarcity or lack. Do you think you would be more likely or less likely to succeed?
In this video I’m going to share with you a simple three step process you can use to release feelings of scarcity and realize the abundance and wholeness that is always here, always now.
This process is easy to learn and easy to do. The only thing you need to do here is welcoming or allowing. This is usually the opposite of what we do with uncomfortable feelings like scarcity. What we usually do is try to push these feelings away or cover them up. This doesn’t work and only reinforces the illusion of scarcity.
But when you welcome these feelings or just allow them to be here, they dissolve all on their own. Let’s do the process and you’ll get a better understanding when we’re finished.
Watch the video to do the process to release feelings of scarcity:
Now take a few moments and notice how you feel after doing this exercise. Do you feel more relaxed or more at ease? Are you feeling less scarcity and more abundance? Just take a few moments to check inside and see if you can feel a difference.
If you’re feeling a difference, great! You’re beginning to break through the illusion of limitation and lack. If you’re not feeling anything, that’s ok too. Either way, continue using this process in your daily life. Whenever you notice yourself wanting more or feeling like you don’t have enough, use this process to release that feeling. The more you let go of feelings of scarcity, the more you will be able to see and feel the abundance that is always here, always now.