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How To Manifest Your Soulmate Using The Law Of Attraction

It can be hard to go through life without a partner - someone who loves and supports you. It doesn’t matter how much wealth or success you achieve, if you don’t have anyone to share it with, it doesn’t do you any good.

Finding your soulmate is one of life’s greatest milestones. It’s something that anyone can do, and it’s a lot easier than you think.

After 11 years of studying the Law of Attraction, I have finally mastered the art of manifestation - creating whatever you desire in life. Using the simple steps I outline in this article, I manifested my ideal relationship in 30 days. You can too. It’s a lot easier than you think. 

What you’re going to discover here is probably different than other teachings you’ve seen. That’s because they are missing a critical element to manifestation - letting go. Without letting go, it’s a lot harder to create. The reason why is when you are holding on, you don’t have any room for anything new. To attract anything into your life, you must first make room for it.

In my free coaching course called “How to Manifest Love”, I go more into depth about letting go and how it affects your ability to use the Law of Attraction in your favor. But for now, understand that letting go is just a decision. All you have to do to let go of something is to decide. That’s all there is to it.

So with that in mind, let’s begin.

Step 1: Get Clear on What You Want

A lot of people think that their soulmate is some premade person just for them. And in some respects, they’re right. But what’s missing is the importance of getting clear on what you want in a partner and a relationship.

If you don’t know what you want in a partner, how will you know it when they show up? How will you know to avoid the wrong person while you wait for the right one? Without getting clear, you may find yourself in a relationship with the wrong person. And when your true soulmate shows up, you can’t be with them because you are committed to someone else.

So start by getting clear on what you want. I recommend that you right down the qualities of your ideal partner and your ideal relationship and review them regularly. You can also refine them as your preferences change.

Here are a few questions to help you get clear:

What does your ideal partner look like?

What do they value?

What are their hobbies?

What activities do you want to do with your partner?

Do you want to have children?

How do they look?How do they act?Are they funny? Are they strong?

How do you want them to treat you?

The more details you can get, the better. When you think about with each quality, become aware of how you feel about it. And then let go of the feeling. The reason why I recommend adding letting go to this process is that sometimes the things you want in your relationship are not what you truly desire.

They are things that your parents or your friends told you that you should want. Or they are things that society or the media told us we should want. But they are not things that you actually want.

As you come with these qualities and let go of your feelings about them, what you truly desire will become more and more clear. The things that other people told you that you should want will go away and your true desires will remain.

This process is the most important place to start. The reason why people don’t get what they want, is because they don’t know what they want. So get clear on what you want and you will find that your ideal relationship comes much sooner than you think is possible.

Part 3 of my “How to Manifest Love” coaching course goes more into depth about getting clear on what you want in a partner and a relationship. 

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Step 2: Let Go of Your Attachments and Aversions (Desires and Fears)

With any goal we have, there comes with it attachments and aversions. Attachments are things that we think we need for our happiness and fulfillment. Aversions are things we want to avoid or fears we might have.

Both can get in the way of manifestation. The only way to remove them, is to let them go. And the only way to let go of attachments and aversions is to become aware of them.

Step 2.1: How to Let Go of Fears and Aversions

Let’s first talk about aversions or fears. We all have fears around relationships. And let’s face it, relationships are scary. Most people have been hurt in a relationship at least once. And the pain that pain can be intense - something we never want to feel again.

So we focus on avoiding that pain. We might even avoid dating altogether just to avoid repeating past trauma. But whenever you are focusing on avoiding something, you are still focusing on it. And this makes the Law of Attraction work against you because you’re focusing on what you don’t want.

Remember, the Law of Attraction doesn’t distinguish between good or bad or right or wrong. It simply brings to you what you focus on. So if you want to experience more pain, the best way to do that is to focus avoiding it. That way it remains squarely in your mind and the universe will work diligently to bring it to you.

Oh, you don’t want to experience more pain? Oh ok, well in that case all you have to do is let go of your aversions and fears. And this is easy to to do.

Whenever you catch yourself feeling fear about relationships, just welcome the fear, allow it to be there and experience it fully. It’s important to experience your feelings fully. Most of the time we resist things like fear, and this only makes them stronger. But if you allow them to be there, then they will often leave of their own accord and will no longer take up space in your mind.

If after you have welcomed the fear, there it is still there, you can then decide to let it go. It can often feel like feelings are holding onto you, but in reality you are holding on to them. If you make the decision to let it go, it will release. And you will no longer use the Law of Attraction to create what you don’t want.

I go more into depth about how to let go of feelings like fear in my “How to Manifest Love” coaching course.

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Step 2.2: How to Let Go of Attachments and Desires

Now let’s talk about attachments and desires. You may think that it’s a bad idea to let go of these things. A lot of self-help will tell you that the only reason why you don’t have what you want is because you don’t want it enough.

Nothing could be further from the truth. There are several reasons why this isn’t true. On a metaphysical level, when you are wanting something you are holding in mind lack. You are saying “I don’t have this” or “I’m all alone and nobody loves me”, this sends a signal to the universe: Lack! Lack! Lack!

And the universe will diligently bring you more lack. When you let go of attachments and desires, you will feel a greater feeling of wholeness and completeness. And this feeling will send a signal to the universe of abundance, comfort, and love. And your life circumstances will change to reflect this new paradigm.

On a practical level, attachments can also cause us to engage in self-defeating behaviors. Have you ever talked with a salesperson that was so pushy and eager for the sale that you didn’t want to buy what they were selling, even though you might have otherwise?

Or have you ever been on a date with someone who acted so desperate and needy that you didn’t want to date them?

The root cause of these self-defeating behaviors are attachments or desires. When you attach yourself to something, what you are saying is “I need this for my happiness and fulfillment”. And this creates feelings of lack and desperation. And our feelings affect our behaviors. So if you feel like you are lacking, you will act that out and engage in the self-defeating behaviors I mentioned earlier.

But if you let go, then you will feel more whole and complete within yourself. That is your true nature - your natural state. It is only by holding onto these feelings that we believe otherwise. When you let go of your attachments, you will feel more and more whole and complete in the moment. And this will put an end to self defeating behaviors - forever.

In part 4 of my “How to Manifest Love” coaching course, I go into more depth about letting go of attachments and aversions. I even do a guided release meditation to help you get started. 

You can enroll in this course now by clicking here. 

Step 3: Focus on the Love You Already Have and Be Happy Now.

This is the final component, and arguably the most important. Most people suffer from a terrible disease called “I’ll be happy when X happens” or “I’ll be happy when I have X”. And so they are unhappy for most of their lives. Even when they get what they want, they are happy for a few brief moments and then they find something else - some new goal to defer their happiness to.

People who are unhappy are not attractive. No one wants to be with an unhappy person. But luckily for you, it’s easy to be happy.

Here’s how:

  1. Focus on what you already have

  2. Be loving

We are usually so busy looking at what we don’t have, we never notice what we do have. Even the sunrise can be a source of great joy if you allow yourself to recognize its splendor and glory.

Another way you can do this so to notice and appreciate the relationships you already have that are great. It could even be something so simple as your cheerful barista who always makes your coffee just the right way. The more you can enjoy what you have, the happier you will be and this will make people magnetically attracted to you.

The final secret is to be loving. Most people believe that happiness is when they are being loved - when someone loves them. But if this were true, then celebrities who get love from millions of people would be totally happy. But they aren’t. Some of these people even kill themselves because they are so miserable.

The truth is that the more you love, the happier you are. If you can focus on loving, the love within you will expand. Love is like a muscle, the more you work it, the stronger it gets. And the more you love, the happier you are. Look for things to love every day, as often as you can. If you see a beautiful flower, notice how you love it and see if you can love it even more. And then you will notice how happy you are too.

Soon you will be able to love everything unconditionally. And when you can do this, you will also be unconditionally happy. And this is the most attractive way to live. If you love unconditionally, you attract others to you. Everyone wants to feel the love of another. And it feels good to be around a happy person.

So focus on loving as much as you can, and you will be surprised how happy you can be!

If you're serious about attracting your soulmate, here are the next steps:

In my “How to Manifest Love” coaching course, I talk a lot about love and happiness. In section 2 I lay out the exact pathway to finding unconditional love and happiness. I also do a guided release meditation to help you get started. 

My Law of Attraction Love Success Story

How I attracted my ideal partner in 30 days (and how you can too!)

This is the story of how I used the Law of Attraction to effortlessly create my ideal relationship with my girlfriend Laura. She is my best friend and a wonderful partner. The relationship we share is the best we've both ever had.

This story has some implications for you: no matter where you're at in life, you can always turn things around. And it's easier than you think to attract your ideal partner and create a loving relationship.

As you'll discover in this story, I went from being a geeky guy to being a suave (and unhappy) player and then realizing the infinite love available to all of us and the innate ability we all have to create whatever we desire in life. 

I started out as an overweight, nerdy kid.

When I was a teenager I was shy and socially awkward. I was overweight and into nerdy things like Dungeons and Dragons. I grew up in a strict religious family where sex was a taboo topic.

Because of all these things I didn't even try dating. Well I tried a little, but I was so shy and awkward that I gave up after a few failed efforts.

In my late teens I began to go to the gym and lost a lot of the excess weight. The improvements to my looks attracted the attention of a girl at my church. Despite her making obvious invitations for me to talk to her, I didn't because I still had the belief that no one wanted to date me.

Eventually this woman's dad decided to intervene and set us up on a date. It turned out that we had a lot in common and got along well. We kept dating and fell in love rather quickly. Because both our parents were religious and we were in love, I asked her to marry me.

A brief marriage and devastating divorce.

After a brief marriage of two years, she asked me for a divorce. This was devastating to me. And I was rebounding. Because I didn't have any other experience with women and dating I did what any other geeky guy would do - start reading books on the topic. This was also when I learned about the Law of Attraction.

Some of the books were lousy, but some were good. Like many things in life, success with dating is often counterintuitive - the opposite of what you think will work, often works. I had to unlearn a lot of bad behaviors and learn new ones.

And I had to become a better person - I had to grow and improve. This is paramount to success in any endeavor - becoming greater than your problems.

As I put what I learned into practice, I began to have success. I met some great women, and some of those women ended up being my girlfriend.

But none of them lasted. And I was not happy or fulfilled despite getting all the female attention I wanted. Sometimes when you get the thing that you think will make you happy, it doesn't.

Frustration with life leads to spiritual awakening.

After several years of partying and picking up women, I became frustrated with life. I had been seeking happiness and fulfillment from the world - money, sex, etc. None of these things gave me the fulfillment and love I wanted.

And my life was a mess. Despite having a college degree in Chemistry, I had a hard time finding gainful employment. I was living with my parents. I had few friends and I didn’t have a good relationship with my family, either.

But I didn't lose hope. I thought maybe I just hadn't learned the right thing or done the right thing yet. I read a ton of self-help books over the years. In fact, self-help was pretty much all I read. I devoured books from people like Tony Robbins, Eckhart Tolle, Louise Hay, and many more books that talked about the law of attraction.. These works were helpful, but not life changing.

It wasn't until I discovered letting go that everything changed.

One day I was searching for another self-help program that could maybe help me get out of this rut I was in. As I browsed the web I saw someone say on a forum that letting go was the key to making the law of attraction work.

When I read this, something spoke to me inside. I knew I had to give it a try. I got my hands on a recording of a retreat that was all about letting go and started listening. It was totally eye opening. The instructor talked about how "want equates to lack" and encouraged listeners to let go of wanting (among other things).

All of this made sense to me. I understood how wanting created the feeling of lack - and if you feel lack, then that’s what you create in life.

So I did. And it felt good. As I let go if felt like a great burden lifted from my shoulders. And it was energizing. I could hardly sleep the first night I started. But I kept listening to this retreat without taking many breaks.

A few days later I experienced something I will never forget. I went for a walk to burn off some of the excess energy I had. As I walked I felt the most intense happiness and bliss. I remember thinking to myself: "what is this?" "what is happening?"

As I looked around, I saw no separation between myself and anything else. I also noticed that I loved everything, unconditionally. At the same time, I felt Kundalini energy rising up my spine. The only way I can describe it is like an orgasm of the soul.

In that moment, I realized that what we are is unlimited and loves everything unconditionally. I realized that we are not separate from Source, or God (or whatever you want to call it) and that everything we are seeking - love, abundance, eternal life - we have already.

I manifested my dream job and discovered I could create anything I wanted...

Shortly after that I manifested my dream job with a startup bio-fuels company. That was my first major win. As the years went by, I was able to use the law of attraction to create pretty much anything I set my mind to.

But I never gave much thought to relationships. I had good social skills and I was a good looking guy. I didn’t have a problem getting a girlfriend. I didn't think to use my knowledge to create my ideal relationship. That is, until I had several bad breakups in a row.

After those breakups, I decided it was time to create my ideal relationship. I felt frustrated that I had loved and lost so many times. I never wanted to feel that pain again.

So I decided to use the techniques I learned to create my ideal relationship. I got clear on what my ideal partner and my ideal relationship looked like to me, and started letting go. 

I meet my dream girl, effortlessly

Laura and I in Colorado Springs

About a month after I did this process, my mom called me up, told me that her wellness coach was single and wanted to know if I was interested in going on a date with her. I said yes, and when we met up, we connected instantly.

Laura was deeply spiritual like I was - something I desired in a partner. We also held similar social and political beliefs. And we like the same things, enjoy doing the same things, etc. Sure we have our differences like any couple, but overall we are a great match and we disagreements between us are rare.

We’ve been together for well over a year now and I can say that this relationship is the most fulfilling I've ever had.

And the funny thing is I didn't even have to do anything to meet her. I didn't need to use any of the dating advice or "pick-up tricks". And I didn't have to go anywhere to meet her. My mom of all people introduced us!

This is an example of what's possible when you get clear on what you want and let go. The law of attraction really works! Things like this happen frequently in my life. The right thing always seems to show up at the right time. 

Here's how you can attract your soulmate now...

The letting go techniques I learned have had such a profound impact on my life, that I love sharing them with anyone who's interested. 

To help people like you create the relationship you desire, I've put together a free 5-part video coaching class that explains everything you need to know to attract your ideal partner. I call it "How to Manifest Love". 

It's free to sign up, and the techniques I share are easy to learn and use in your daily life. 

The 2 Major Blocks to Having Your Ideal Relationship (and what to do about it)

When trying to create your ideal relationship, there are two major barriers that prevent you from succeeding: feelings of fear and and feelings of lust. These two emotions create internal conflict and rob us of the energy that could otherwise be used to take the right actions.

In this post, you’re going to learn how these two emotions affect you, and also how you can release them so they no longer affect your thoughts, actions, and overall experience of life.

How Fear Gets in the Way in Our Relationships

Let’s first talk about fear. Fear paralyzes us and prevents us from taking action towards our goal. This could manifest in many ways such as:

  • Not asking out your crush.
  • Not putting yourself out there.
  • Not having that crucial conversation with your partner that you know will lead to a better relationship.
  • Not expressing yourself honestly to those around you.

The most common fears around relationships is fear of getting hurt or taken advantage of. Other common fears include fear of abandonment, fear of rejection, and the fear that we are not good enough.

These fears are not real, they are just thoughts. Even if you have experienced something negative in the past, it’s still just a memory. It’s not what’s here and now. When you hold on to feelings of fear, you are focusing on something that you don’t want. You are at least making it real in your mind.

Do you really want to do that? Do you really want to keep experiencing something that you don’t want over and over again?

The good news is that you can easily let go of fear. And when you do this, you will stop suffering its negative effects.

Later on In this article, you're going to discover a quick and easy exercise you can use to release feelings of fear anytime you want. 

How Lust Prevents You from Having Your Ideal Relationship

The second major barrier to having your ideal relationship is lust. When we think of lust, often the first thing that comes to mind is sex. But lust is more than that. It is a feeling of “I want that” or “I need that”. But there is some hold-back. Often with lust comes a feeling of “it’s not right for me” or “It’s not possible” or “I can’t”.

The problem with lust is that it is a feeling of lack and limitation. If you approach a relationship or potential partner from a place of lack or neediness, your chances of success are not very good.

Neediness is repulsive, not attractive. 

The good news is that lust is just a feeling, it’s not you, and you can let it go. And when you let go of lust or wanting, you will notice more and more a feeling of completeness or wholeness.

And this is a much more attractive to other people. If you feel whole and complete within yourself, those around you will feel the same.

And they will naturally be attracted to you because of how you make them feel.

How to Be Free From Fear and Lust So You Can Create Your Ideal Relationship

In the video below, I guide you through an  exercise to release fear and lust. There’s really only two things you need to do in this exercise: welcoming and letting go. These two inner actions are usually the opposite of what we normally do. 

What we normally do with uncomfortable feelings like fear and lust is try to cover them up, avoid them, or get rid of them. And this doesn’t work. This only serves to strengthen the power they have over you. If you welcome or allow them instead, they release all on their own.

Similarly, we also tend to hold on to these uncomfortable feelings. It may seem like these feelings are holding onto you, but in reality you are holding on to the feeling. If you decide instead to let it go, you will feel it release and you will be free from it.

Just follow along as best you can and do it just for now. You can always go back to your old habits later. You really can’t do this the wrong way.

Now take a few moments and notice how you feel after doing this exercise. Do you feel more empowered? Do you feel more free or more courageous or more whole and complete? Just take a few moments to check inside and see if you can feel a difference.

If you’re feeling a difference, great! You’re beginning to release feelings of fear and lust. If you’re not feeling anything, that’s OK too. Either way, continue using this process whenever you notice fear or lust arising in consciousness.

Fear and lust are just feelings. They are not you and you can let them go. The more you let go fo these feelings, the more you will feel empowered to create whatever you want in life.

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